Penny drop
When I was a little girl, I always knew I'd get married, buy a house and have kids one day, and in that exact order. It was something I was as sure of as the sun rising and setting.
I've never had a problem with people having children when they aren't married, or people not being totally 'settled' with the white picket fence etc before they had kids, but I always thought I would be. It's something I've held onto for a long time, and to be honest if I hadn't let this idea go 'waiting for the planets to align' I'd be holding myself back and waiting forever to get on with my life.
I'm 29 this year, and so the biological clock has started to tick, I'm genuinely thinking of starting the baby making within the next year or two. I have no desire to be 40 and pushing out my first baby, I couldn't think of anything worse!
So last night Tony and I were talking, and it really hit me (thanks to Tony being so sensible) that it doesn't matter what financial position were are in, where we live, if we're married or not, if we want children we should just do it! I think despite not being married, we made a life long commitment to each other a long time ago, and neither of us are going anywhere.
I am scared out of my mind about the whole birth thing, yet the desire for a Tony Jr. or Mini Milly is just too strong to worry about it too much. When I was a teenager, I thought maybe by the time I have kids they might have some way you can grow a baby in a test tube. Unfortunately not! I doubt it has changed much at all since my Mum had me! I figure if women go back and do it time and time again, it must all be worth it.
Em: synchronise watches!
posted by Milly @ 6:41 PM
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5 Comments:
Nooooooo! We have to wait until we get back from Nepal in November, or I won't be able to trek! Hehe.
Hehe, I think it will be safe to say it will be after then :)
I grew up in a household that was strapped enough where parents had to sell life insurance and all number of other things. I remember years without birthdays and christmas was really about the meal. Great people are brought up in so many different circumstances and complete peices of human crap are brought up under the best of circumstances.
Parenting is about more than money and a place to put the kids so I think you'll be fine. Tony just needs a high shelf for his camera and you're set :)
Excellent point Aaron! How can we hock Tony's camera at cash converters if it's broken? hehe
i think as long as you are in the position to give your children the life that they deserve with everything they possibly need to have a fruitful future, then go for it.
i have mixed opinions about it just because i come from a background that works with underprivileged kids and i've seen lots of different circumstances. kids from bad homes, kids from good homes, kids from good homes that turn bad, kids from bad homes that turn good... and also being in the teaching position where you educate children of all different backgrounds.
i just think as long as you are committed and understand completely what you're "getting yourself into" for lack of better words, then you should definitely go for it.
on a side note i think you and tony will make wonderful parents. and i'm going to be an ece teacher so your kids definitely need to be taught by me! :p
xx
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